In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful.
In continuation from last week’s hadith, wherein the Messenger of Allah, Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, advises a man not to hate his wife; for if he dislikes one of her traits there will definitely be another which will appeal to him.
To treat her well and in an appropriate manner it is important to understand her status that Allah has bestowed her with. When we look into the stages in a life of a woman we find that when she is born Allah places her in the trust of her father and it has been made incumbent upon him to feed her, clothe her and provide her every need. This act of bringing up a daughter holds great virtue in the eyes of Allah. The Messenger of Allah, Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, said in a hadith:
“The one who takes care of two girls (in another narration: one girl), he and I will be like this on the Day of Judgement.”(Indicating to his two fingers closed together). (Muslim)
Thereafter, the next stage in her life is that she becomes someone’s wife. At this point, the husband becomes responsible for taking care of her and providing for her. Allah has given the wife the role of a queen, where she needs not go out to work and earn but her husband must do so and provide her according to his capability. And as we have discussed in previous weeks, the Messenger of Allah, Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, has given great emphasis upon the good treatment of wives.
After becoming a wife, next a woman becomes a mother. What to say about the importance of a child treating his/her mother with the utmost reverence, love, affection and care. It is very well-known that our beloved Master informed us that Jannah lies beneath a mother’s feet. Serving her and pleasing her is the key to the higher levels in Jannah.
So we can see that Islam gives great honour to women and it is an extremely far-fetched notion that Islam would ever give permission, let alone encourage, domestic violence.
Domestic violence and wife-beating is Haraam- Totally Forbidden.
Islam also acknowledges that tense and difficult times sometimes do occur. Even in these situations we are taught how to go about solving our problems. Such as reminding one’s spouse of Allah’s and His Messenger’s teachings and advices for a married couple. Thereafter, if a solution is not reached they should separate their sleeping quarters and wait to see if this brings about the correct awareness. Even after this, one may not hit or beat his wife. The most he should do is tap her sternly, to express displeasure. This should not leave a mark or even pain, that what is meant in Qur’an by saying hit them…
Insha Allah, we will continue next week.
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