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Wednesday Hadith Lesson.....Recommendations with regard to Women

الحمد لله و الصلوة و السلام على رسول الله

عن ابي هريره رضي الله عنه قال: قال رسول الله صلي الله عليه و سلم:

اكمل المؤمنين إيمانا احسنهم خلقا و خياركم خياركم لنسائهم

[ترمذي]

Sayyiduna Abu Huraira رضي الله عنه reports that Rasulullah صلى الله عليه و سلم said:

“The most complete of the believers in the faith are those with the best character. And the best of you are those who treat their wives in the best manner.”

Good character is, as shown in the above Hadith, an essential part of faith. Shaykh Mufti Taqi Usmani (may Allah preserve him) has explained that the good character is a condition of the heart. It is not, as commonly believed, to simply put on a smile and ask someone, “how are you?!” It is a lot deeper than this. It is to see all others to be better than oneself. This state will lead to desiring good for others and then the smile one has on the face will be a true reflection of his heart, and not for show.

Rasulullah صلى الله عليه و سلم once said: الدين النصيحة; meaning, “Religion is to desire good.” The Companions رضي الله عنهم asked: “For whom?” He صلى الله عليه و سلم replied: “For Allah, His Messenger, for the leaders of the Muslims and the general Masses.” [البخاري و مسلم]

So with this in mind, we approach the second part of today’s Hadith, that, “The best of you are those who treat their wives in the best manner.” The importance of good treatment to wives could simply not be stressed enough.

One should keep in mind: “What would I like if I were in his/her position?” And after thinking of this, act accordingly. This is a simple, but effective method of ensuring a loving and peaceful environment in the home.